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Seven Reasons Why You Aren‘t Fitting in With the Locals

You took a huge step by moving to a new country! However, it doesn’t quite feel like home yet without the right people by your side. Making new friends through cultural barriers can be a struggle, but thankfully there are ways to make it easier.

Making new friendships is tough, but certainly not impossible! The first step to overcome this dilemma is to understand what you may be doing wrong.

If you are having problems befriending the locals it might be because:

1.     You Do Not Understand the Local Language

Sometimes people live in places where they don’t need to know the language to communicate with the locals. However, understanding another language is a useful skill that can benefit you both professionally and personally in your future. It also helps you grasp the local culture and the way that locals communicate with each other. After you have mastered the basics, you can find a tandem partner to help you improve even more. Then, when people see you trying to understand their culture, they will be more open to learning about yours!

2.     You Jumped in Too Fast

Everyone needs time to adjust to new surroundings; you shouldn’t be upset if things don’t go as planned straight away. In general, extroverts tend to have an easier time adjusting than introverts because of their natural social confidence. If you find it difficult to make conversation with the locals, maybe you should take a step back and observe how they talk to each other. Remember, what you find interesting might not be interesting to them. Sometimes taking time to understand their culture and interactions will help you find similar topics to talk about.

3.     You Are Lost In the Matrix

Social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter may seem to be useful ways to connect with people, but in reality they are not the best tools for finding new friends locally. It may be tempting to see what your best friends are doing back home when you are bored at work, but if you are always on your phone during lunch you will seem distant and unapproachable. Try putting your phone away next time — even if no one is talking to you, you will appear to be more open to starting a conversation.

4.     Learn about Those around You

One of the best ways to start up a conversation is by asking questions. Everyone finds it easy to talk about themselves and sharing stories about their past experiences: it is always nice to have someone show an interest in you. However, be cautious about asking people private questions. If you ask them deep personal questions, it may seem like you are prying. Equally, avoid confessing secrets, or other more emotional topics. This may make people shy away, due to the serious or glum tone of the conversation. Start with something simple — travelling, sports, college, work, pets, and family are all solid subjects to begin a conversation.

5.     You Have Not Shown Your Appreciation of Others

Taking your time to let someone know that you appreciate them will not only boost their self-esteem, but it will also help them view you more positively. For example, if someone helps you in any way, thank them — those few simple words are a small price to pay to recognize when someone has gone out of their way. Also, next time you admire an attribute— whether it is someone’s smile, work ethic, or even their shirt — let them know. This will make them feel better about themselves and make them more inclined to like you.

6.     You Need To Be More Cheerful

Be happy! Few people have the opportunity to live in another country. If you think that making friends in your new home is difficult, being in a bad mood is not going to solve anything. It’s not rocket science, your co-workers will like you more if you say good morning with a smile. In addition, try not to judge people from other cultures if they have a different opinion. Everyone was raised with different values and sees the world in their own way. If you accept others for who they are and what they believe, you will find that more people will be willing to do the same for you.

7.     You Are Not Attending the Local Events

No one likes a hermit! If you want to be a part of the local community, one of the first steps is to attend their events. Spend your time doing what they enjoy. Whether it’s a local café, a sports game, or a festival, it will get you out of your shell and the locals will accept you more because you are sharing what they enjoy.

If You Are Still Having Problems…

Be kind to yourself. You are not alone, no matter how lonely you feel. Whether or not you notice it, others are in the same situation as you; sometimes these people are closer than you think. Friendships will come and go, but your unique expat experience will last a lifetime.. In the meantime, be grateful that you have this opportunity to live in a new country. Most people would be more than happy to trade positions with you.

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